Words…
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under General
Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
Dream as if you will have a lover for ever. Live as if you will never get to see them again.
A Word From Tavis Smiley
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Social Issues
We are getting nowhere and fast! We are definitely our own worst enemies. 
I don’t know whether you all have seen the Black Think Tank that Tavis Smiley hosts on C-Span every year, but it is powerful food for thought. Here are a few of the things learned at the Black Think Tank this month.
Facts:
1. The first Americans or Native Americans going back to 13,000 BC were black! Look up the Folsom people who lived in Arizona.
2. One of the best reasons to stop our use of the term African American and say Black. A white person who was born in Africa, who moves to America is An African American and qualifies for financial aid, etc., but will get the jobs/pay privileges afforded to whites.
3. Look up the Slavery Law of 1665 (which stayed in effect until 1968) and the Maryland Doctrine of Exclusion (1638): both laws state that black s must be excluded from the benefits afforded whites, and that blacks must remain noncompetitive with whites, except in sports and entertainment.
4. Two white men: Bill Gates and Larry Elision, combined have more wealth than the combined wealth of all 36 million blacks in America.
Civil Rights did not change the economic landscape or the balance of power in America.
5. Asians received 80% of all government minority set aside contracts.
Hello!!
6. Blacks eat more fish than whites by a 4 to 1 margin. For every dollar that whites spend on fish, blacks spend $9 on fish. Fish sold wholesale for $1 will retail at $2.50 – $3.00. Guess what business we should be in as Blacks?
7. There isn’t any black owned national cable, or major network
television stations. Cathy Hughes, the black woman who owns our only black owned radio stations, plans to sell to white owners after hearing the deal Bob J Johnson received for selling BET. (Cathy Hughes is from OMAHA y’all!)
8. There are no black owned companies on the Wall Street Stock
Exchange; where blacks own the majority or controlling interest of the stock.
9. Ninety-six percent (96%) of all black inmates are men.
10. Over the next two years 440,000 black inmates will be released from prison. The State has no place to put them as they re-enter society. A profitable business would be a Halfway house!
11. In 1860, 98% of all Blacks in America worked for White people. In 2001, 98% of all Blacks in America still work for white people.
12. In 1860, blacks in America had a combined net worth of one half of 1 percentage point. Guess what, in 2001, after Civil Rights, Jesse Jackson, Oprah, Shaq, NAACP, and Urban League, our combined net worth is half a percentage point.
13. For every dollar earned by a Jewish person, that dollar touches 12 to 18 Jewish hands before it leaves their community. For every dollar earned by a black person it leaves the community soon as he or she earns it.
14. The last week of April 2003 in Washington, DC black teenagers were arrested and booked for eating McDonalds on the metro subway. Cops cited recent 5-4 court decision as the permission to arrest law breakers even for minor offenses.
15. Sixty-seven percent (67%) of all hate crimes in America are against blacks.
16. After we get through being pleased that we have carpet in our office, a secretary, our name on the door and make six figures, we do not own anything.
17. What will happen if you miss 6 months of work without pay? All we’ve left for our children is debt not an inheritance.
You cannot pass welfare or food stamps onto our kids as a nest egg! We are not even in the race.
18. By the way, the word “race” hit the English language in the 16th century when Europeans held a contest to see who will win the race to gather the lost wealth through exploitation of blacks.
19. You must read Powernomics by Claude Anderson. This is our blueprint to create wealth, not just have a job, but be a business owner, so you can hire people, be listed on the stock exchange, and develop businesses to meet our needs.
This is “Good Food” for thought. Share this with children, grand children, best friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, neighbor, e-mail buddies, etc.
The Courtesy Call
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Amore & Vita, General
Ever given one? Ever gotten one? Who gets one? Who doesn’t? How soon does it come? What form does it come in? WTF is the courtesy call you say? Simple. The courtesy call could also be called the respect call since it is, in most situations, a measure of the respect you have for someone. The courtesy call is about if, when and how you notify former significant others or booty calls of news that either directly or indirectly relates to them.
A friend of mine just found out that an ex-SO of hers is now engaged. Rather than get a personal call or even an email she found out via the Internet. How much time has to go by in that case before a courtesy call is no longer warranted?
Suppose someone you were with found out they got an STD. Maybe it was after you…maybe it was before. Is a courtesy call always warranted? How far apart do the instances of them sleeping with you and them hearing about a possible STD need to be before a courtesy call is not warranted?
What if you’re now dating your friend’s ex or his/her sister? Do they get a courtesy call before the clothes ever come off? Should you wait until you’re exclusive?
What if you’re divorced and so serious about someone else that you’re ready to move out of state with them? Do they have a right to know regardless of whether you still get along or not? Obviously if there are children involved the situation is different.
I had a personal situation where I felt a courtesy call would’ve been prudent. It happened over 10 years ago after I had gone fishing off the company pier. We only went out twice and remained friendly afterward. Well about five months later I’m shooting the bull with some guys in the office. Come to find out Coworker is pregnant! Word was out she had slept with another guy in the office after me but he was vehemently denying he was the father. At this point people in the office know about us since my roommate worked at the same company. One of the guys says to me “DT, you’re amazingly calm about this. What’s the deal?” I said she and I were together five months ago. If it were mine she’d be showing by now. In actuality I was calm because I didn’t know until just now. I was 99.999% sure it wasn’t mine but I called her that night to get the final .0001%. Nevertheless this brotha would have appreciated a courtesy call to say “hey DT. FYI, I’m pregnant and I’m having it but you’re not the baby daddy so don’t trip.”
What are your thoughts on the courtesy call? For me it is about respect. If I’ve shared a significant part of my being with someone and they’ve chosen to share the same with me I feel they are owed a certain something. How do you define when a relationship reaches that point where the other person is just entitled to be told certain things privately and before it becomes public knowledge? Equally important – when are they no longer entitled to know?
Uselesss factoids
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Jokes, Uncategorized
- If you yelled for 8 years, 7 months and 6 days you would have produced enough sound energy to heat one cup of coffee.
(Hardly seems worth it.) - If you farted consistently for 6 years and 9 months, enough gas is produced to create the energy of an atomic bomb.
( Now that’s more like it!) - The human heart creates enough pressure when it pumps out to the body to squirt blood 30 feet.
(O.M.G.!) - A pig ‘s orgasm lasts 30 minutes.
(In my next life, I want to be a pig.) - A cockroach will live nine days without its head before it starves to death. (Creepy.)
(I’m still not over the pig.) - Banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories a hour
(Don’t try this at home, maybe at work) - The male praying mantis cannot copulate while its head is attached to its body. The female initiates sex by ripping the male’s head off.
(Honey, I’m home. What the…?!) - The flea can jump 350 times its body length. It’s like a human jumping the length of a football field.
(30 minutes..lucky pig! Can you imagine?) - The catfish has over 27,000 taste buds.
(What could be so tasty on the bottom of a pond?) - Some lions mate over 50 times a day.
(I still want to be a pig in my next life…quality over quantity) - Butterflies taste with their feet.
(Something I always wanted to know.) - The strongest muscle in the body is the tongue.
(Hmmmmmm……) - Right-handed people live, on average, nine years longer than left-handed people.
(If you’re ambidextrous, do you split the difference?) - Elephants are the only animals that cannot jump.
(Okay, so that would be a good thing) - A cat’s urine glows under a black light.
(I wonder who was paid to figure that out?) - An ostrich’s eye is bigger than its brain.
( I know some people like that). - Starfish have no brains
(I know some people like that too.) - Polar bears are left-handed.
(If they switch, they’ll live a lot longer, but they won’t be as cool) - Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.
It’s A Numbers Game
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Amore & Vita, General, Lust
So..last night Belle and I had the “numbers” talk. You know the one. The one that sinks otherwise unsinkable ships. The “so what have you done and how many times have you done it” talk. Have you had this talk? If you haven’t do not have this talk. This is not a good talk. Nothing good can come from this talk. Inevitably comparisons are made and apparently for men AND women the competitive juices began to flow.
It was definitely eye-opening on both sides. We plowed through the Too Much Information barrier like a runaway freight train cutting thru melted butter…downhill….on a greased track…loaded with coal. It started off innocently enough. A few easy questions purely for entertainment value. Unfortunately simple questions occasionally require clarification which means divulging details that you may or may not want to know.
Disclaimer – Let me make it perfectly clear Belle’s number was actually quite low. It was only surprisingly in the sense that I naively assumed that I knew everything already…well I missed a couple.
Obviously being older (and a guy) my number was much higher than Belle’s. However taking my age into account I think my number is quite reasonable. She was not overly pleased about this revelation. I think what bothered her most was the fact that all of them, save one or two, were essentially hit & runs or friends w/benefits situations. She was and still is concerned about being “flavor of the month” or worse…yet another temporary diversion from the loneliness of daily life. One would think the fact that we have been involved on some level for nearly two years now would enough to assuage those fears but apparently not. Besides…it wasn’t for lack of trying. Actually it was but I digress.
When it’s all said and done the truth is we have absolutely no reason to be envious of anyone in our SO’s past. They are in the past for good reason. If they were really that fantastic they’d still be where you are right now. Leave it at that. Trust me on this one, folks. Thank you and good night.
