The little things
Posted by Belle | Filed under Amore & Vita, General
Last night, I had a momentary lapse in sanity and called D_T crying. He was patient although I know he really probably wishes that I would just move on with my life and quit letting little things get to me. It was a brief conversation because my momentary lapse in sanity also resulted in a momentary lapse in patience.
However, I ended up calling back and we talked for a while. He had made the comment once before that it would be nice if we could know which memories we will remember and make them last as long as possible. Last night, we were discussing various aspects of our Atlanta trip, and it’s amazing how even the little things like cuddling, splitting dessert, or even watching the end of a bad movie at 2 a.m. can leave a lasting impact and be something that you truly miss. I would have gladly given my favorite pair of shoes for him to have been there last night. )And yes, me offering up my shoes is a big thing). It’s the little things about a person that can leave more of a mark on you than a big romantic dinner with candlelight and roses. Stuff like that is just for show, but just being able to walk down the street holding hands….that’s a memory worth having.
Sleepin Single In a Double Bed
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Amore & Vita, General
I’m W….and I’m a wimp. I admit this freely. I like to hug. I like to cuddle. I like to spoon. I want to be cared about. Most of all, I want to wake up next to the woman I slept with the night before. This explains why plain ole missionary is my favorite position. I want to look her in the eye and feel as much of her touching me as humanly possible. I have tried casual sex often and usually failed. With the exception of Roommate (who is an ex-gf of seven years) this has only occurred with a very few of my sexual liasons.
It didn’t happen with Match.com girl because our trysts were usually in the afternoons or early evenings. The other times were during the week when one of us had to get up at the buttcrack of dawn.
It never happened with Texas Flame for several reasons. First, she had a bed that wasn’t big enough for the both of us to be in comfortably unless we were on top of each other…my preferred position anyway. Second, I didn’t want her to hear me snoring like a freight train. Thirdly, and probably most importantly, our physical relationship was SUPPOSED TO BE casual sex and nothing else. We had a border that we agreed not to cross. A border which was my idea and construction. A border which I later demolished and plowed thru with an Abrams A1A tank.
It did happen with AOL girl, although she is probably the only girl since college that I never wanted a real relationship with. For once it was pure sex. We met once and that was that.
It certainly didn’t happen with Married Nympho Coworker, because she obviously had a husband to go home to. I never thought it possible to actually get tired of good sex but it is and I did.
Which brings me to Belle. Like all of the really good relationships I’ve had with women, Belle and I are friends first. She listens to me whine about things never to be with other girls and I listen to her pine over other men. Belle and I spent 2 and a half days sequestered in a hotel room. We didn’t cuddle as much as we both wanted, which I again blame on a need to cover up my snoring. However two mornings I got to wake up a bit early and just watch her sleep….a beautiful thing.
Group sex…unintentionally
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Amore & Vita, General
If you can’t be with the one you love, honey love the one you’re with.
I’m in what I think would be a rather odd situation…but maybe not. The more I think about it the less unique I think it is. Both Belle and I, if we had ultimate say so in the matter, would probably rather still be with the ones we were with prior to us getting together. Yes. I know that sounds cold and empty but we both do a fairly good job giving each other their “space” about it and not using it as a weapon against each other.
This isn’t about jealousy, really. Belle definitely does it for me and I have a pretty good idea I do it for her as well. Neither of us have ever called out the wrong name or anything like that. I certainly don’t look at her and wish she was anyone other than who she is already. On second thought I can think of a few things I’d change but we’re not gonna go there today. 
However it wouldn’t surprise me if the occasional memory of those people darted through our minds during the idle times. It does make me wonder to what extent our past partners (and those of others in similiar situations) are still in bed with us. I could take this one step further and say the person I was with previously would probably have preferred another as well. In a sense you could say there are five people (maybe more) in the bed every time we get together.
I read a few blogs that suggest this is probably more prevalent than some people are willing to admit to themselves. Any other opinions/confessions?
Shotgun Wedding
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Amore & Vita, General
Text message chat about Belle’s dear mama who has no idea that I:
- am not white
- am signficantly older than Belle
- have seen her daughter in her birthday suit
Rain or Shine, the Mail Must Make it Through!
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Amore & Vita, General, Sports, Triathlon
This weekend I ventured north, escaping the confines of sunny So Cal for a weekend in Solvang, an old Danish mining town with lots of cool shops and what not. The second week of March every year there’s a huge bike ride with over 5,000 people in it. The population of Solvang is only 5,000 so bikers basically take the place over. Every hotel in town was booked solid so I stayed about 20 miles away in Lompoc. The ride headquarters is the Royal Scandinavian Inn and that place books up a full year in advance.
Not a whole lot in Lompoc other than an Air Force base and prison. I dragged the roommate and dog with me. He seemed to have as much as fun as I did and he didn’t crap or bark in the hotel room once.
I need an attitude adjustment
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Amore & Vita, General
I’m feelin a little direction-less lately, but I do like these lyrics.
It may sound absurd…but don’t be naive
Even heroes have the right to bleed
I may be disturbed…but won’t you concede
Even heroes have the right to dream
It’s not easy to be me
Jekyl & Hyde
Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Amore & Vita, General
I propose a new law stating that women not be allowed to have any contact with the male species while they’re having their period. They are to be restricted to their primary residence at all times unless said location is only occupied by other women. While GNP may possibly decline slightly that’s the price we’ll have to pay for whirled peas. That is all.
