Your Just Desserts

Posted by Dubbayoo | Filed under Amore & Vita

So, the other day a friend of Belle was expressing his extreme disastisfaction with his marriage. Apparently he feels his spouse is not meeting him halfway in making the relationship work. He expressed his disatisfaction by repeatedly using the phrase “I deserve…”. That got me to thinking about my life.

What about all the things I felt I deserved? What about you people out there in Blog Land? What if you could go back in time and get everything you truly deserved? Would you really want to? Think about it very seriously. I mean everything! You don’t get to pick and choose what, when and where.

Sure, maybe you deserved to be first string in high school instead of the coaches son. Maybe you lost out on a job because the other less-qualified person knew somebody with influence. Maybe you think someone isn’t treating you the way you feel you deserve to be treated.

Well, my friend…that coin has two sides. What about the bad things you deserved that didn’t happen to you. That time in 5th grade when you broke a window playing baseball and the kid next door got blamed for it. The time you cheated on your SO and got caught but they believed the lies you told them because they loved you and wanted to believe the best about you. Or the time you drove home from the bar completely shit-faced. You caused an accident that resulted in an innocent person being killed while your drunk ass escaped without a scratch. My parents bought me a car before my sister got one, despite the fact that she was three years older, in college and on her way to medical school (full scholarship, no less). Granted she got a new car instead of used but I still feel guilty about that 20′something years later.

I’m willing to bet that if each and every one of us goes back and does the math on our lives we’ll discover that the things we got away with outweigh the things we missed out on by a large margin. They say the key to happiness isn’t getting what you want…it’s wanting what you get. I’ll take the things I’ve got over the things I didn’t get any day of the week. We should thank God every single day that we haven’t gotten what we deserved. I sure do.

Permalink | July 5th, 2007

One Response to “Your Just Desserts”

  1. Avatar Says:
    July 13th, 2007 at 6:25 pm

    I used to think it’d be better to get whatever I wanted, but your post has me thinking otherwise. You’re right. Things do have a way of balancing out.